“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man” -George Bernard Shaw
How can a false perception of 1 person destroy 1 life? How do we come up with these thoughts about who is sick? Can 1 person’s opinion affect another person’s whole life and alter their world? Does it really matter who your doctor or therapist is? Why is it so important to stand up for what you believe even if it seems like everyone is against you?
“But it is so hard to speak up when everyone else is against me.”
That is what I hear. I am telling you that is not true. I am sure of it, and allow me to show you why.
qui tacet consentire videtur, (Silence is consent.)
There was a man named Robert Rosenthal who did a study in 1964. The study proved that if you took random students, and told teachers that these students were gifted or going to succeed, that this would affect the teachers interactions with the students. They took students, and gave them a fake IQ test that showed the teachers which students were going to excel and succeed. The students that did well on the test all performed better and thrived in class. So the teachers thought that the test that showed which students were gifted was very accurate.
The problem was, however, that the test was not real. The students were just picked randomly to see if beliefs, even if false, affected how we treat people. The answer is a resounding YES YES YES!!!
This can work on how we treat others negatively also.
This is real life example of this, it occurred when I was working at a county hospital and I was starting to feel confident in my abilities as a staff. I was beginning to stop just agreeing with authority and others and was starting to not just agree with what everyone said.
I walk in to work one day and they say we have a new patient. She was an emergency transfer from jail.
They say to me “can you please get her to fill out her paperwork, we are scared.”
I am thinking why are we scared of a patient? What is this about? I peek out of the window so I can watch this patient. I see her, she’s an African American young lady. She’s very demonstrative as she is playing cards with another young female patient. She is tall and her hair is short and unkempt. She is in light blue scrubs. She is loud, very loud, like her soul is saying, “PAY ATTENTION TO ME.” Her legs go up and down bouncing hard on the floor as she laughs loud, saying “HA HA HELL YEAH MOTHER FUCKER.” She laughs and laughs and she swears real loud. Now this is the dreaded County hospital for the mentally ill. This is the place that case workers use to scare patients, they say, “If you don’t start taking your medications, we are sending you to the county hospital.” It’s feared by everyone. The reputation is that of fear. People come in and they are scared, usually shaking and intimidated. It is where we send people that no one else can handle. The sickest of the sick. Here is this young lady 22 and she has been there 8 hours and she has the staff afraid of her. She is not scared like she is supposed to be, the staff for the most part enjoy that power they have when people are scared, it gives them some kind of advantage. To me, that alone is a problem that people think there is an advantage to be had when dealing with people.
Now most people go into the lion’s den and they knock softly, they softly walk around and make very little noise, don’t wake up the lion. Well, not her. She came into the lion’s den, kicked down the door and said here I am mother fucker, where is that lion, let’s do it. She was ready to go.
So I walk up to her, gently as she is playing cards. I usually do not think twice about meeting the patients for the first time. In fact I think it is probably the most important interaction you have with anyone you want to help, not just patients, but people in general. Especially with these “sick” people. The ones that can sense things that “normal” people cannot.
I walk up and say “hi, I have some things to go over with you.”
She says “hell no mother fucker, I’ve done enough of that shit today.”
I remember getting that little tension in my body feeling like, fuck that, you don’t talk to me like that. That’s ego as I fear people are watching and will consider me soft. But I didn’t, if you force it won’t work. I say, “ok, how about later.” She looks surprised and her demeanor shifted, she was expecting to be told, “too bad we are talking.”
She said “ok.” Staff roll their eyes in disgust, why does he always just give in to them.
This is where the entire mental health system fails. And I mean fails completely. By mental health system, I do not just treatment centers, but society. Society is one huge mental health system. We have this belief that what we think we have to push on to others and we have to fix them. By fix them we mean well, we really do. We have this “knowledge” we want to share and spread. We are thinking we will make them better. We see the other person and our first interaction so many times is to say “this is how you will get better, we will help you, and this is what YOU NEED to do.” What happens is we completely lose them. Now even if we have enough “knowledge” to save the world, no one will listen. When you have been controlled and told what to do your whole life and dominated and never had a say, if you come in and give that “this is what we need to have you do speech,” it’s over. You are now the enemy, forget it. You have rendered yourself useless. What I see then is we say they are non-compliant. We blame the victim. You have to be patient. This is not your journey. It’s not what your want for them, it’s what they want for themselves.
The most important thing we can ever do with anyone is provide empathy and validation. Now you have their attention. Asking them what they think. Giving them a genuine compliment. Actually apologizing when you are actually wrong. This is the way, yet this is never done. We are more about control than helping. It’s starting to shift, but this is still the exception and not the norm. But once you have them, then you can get to work. You will never accomplish anything if you never have empathy. It has to be real and genuine. If you don’t do this, you are useless, and you may as well give up.
So I did this with this young lady. I said to her, “You seem to me to be very in touch with your feelings and not afraid to express yourself. You seem to control the room with your energy. You are at a County hospital, and you are standing out.”
She stopped, put her head down, put her head back up and started to yell, then put her head down and cried. She didn’t know what to do.
I said “now look, have you ever seen a barking dog?”
She said “yeah, mother fucker I’ve seen a barking dog.”
I said “you know, it barks at everyone and everyone thinks it’s a mean dog, but it’s probably been abused, and it has no idea who is going to whoop it so it barks at everyone.” I said “that’s you, now don’t fucking bark at me I’m not going to whoop you. So cut it out.” Yes I talk to patients like that when that’s their language. I wouldn’t talk like that to a rich house wife. That’s why I believe you get to know them first.
I said, “Have you eaten m&m’s, you know hard on the outside to protect the soft inside, that’s you, you don’t fool me.” I said “be real, you are hiding your sensitivity.”
Then we went through the papers. She talked about how when she was a kid, she didn’t have a dad. She was sold for sex by her mother multiple times. She talked about how the first time it happened she cried and bled and she didn’t understand what was happening and her mom then told her to shut up, and she was beaten. Throughout her life she was beaten and raped. She had felonies against her and faced years in prison. The case she was in jail for this time she was with these guys who robbed someone. She was only along for the ride, one was under age and got off, and her with her big mouth shouting at the DA, it became a power struggle. So she is getting the brunt of the charges. She had become the guiltiest because she is a truth teller. A hard core truth teller. So I learn all these things and she is honest about her other crimes. She had been homeless at age 15. Already a felon many times over and the jail couldn’t handle her so she is here. The repository. Dead by the systems reasoning at age 22.
Next day about 330 a fight is starting between 2 other patients. She was sitting there and laughing and wouldn’t clear the room like a child watching a TV show. The nurse practitioner and supervisor of the floor who tried to run the unit with control and force, they asked everyone to move as they always do. Everyone listens to the big bosses. She didn’t, she laughed louder. The county hospital didn’t intimidate her. She “didn’t give a fuck,” as she would say.
The next day we are all in our meetings talking about the patient’s, most staff have not even met this new girl for more than 2 or 3 minutes. The leaders of this team said “she is a predator, a manipulator, and she is a faker and we need the staff documenting this on every shift so we can get her out of here and back to jail.”
I watched around the room, no one said anything. Silence is consent. People started to agree. Why? Because they follow, the thought is now in their heads. They are scared to talk to her. So now the seed is planted and watch it grow. Every shift change, every meeting, this is repeated.
Predator label, chart this. Then the big wig bosses come down to get report and they ask about her. They trust their leaders, so they take the message that we have an evil predator down here causing chaos. Now they have everyone saying this like it is a truth. This happens in life all the time to truth tellers. I heard in a meeting today that we have the most complaints from the bright patients. We take advantage of everyone it seems, but be careful of the smart ones.
It happens, it is human nature. But this now is what happened in this case, when staff saw this girl do a kind act, and she did them often, she was seen as manipulative and we said that she was conning us. Because the thought was in their heads.
There are multiple studies that prove people do this. There was a study in which people came into a room and were asked to tell the researches what was the longest straw out of a group of straws. They were all 100% correct. Then they came back into the room and were asked to pick the longest one again. The difference was now there was a group of people telling them which one to pick. The group was purposely picking the wrong straw, but were loud and all in agreement. 90% of people went with the group even though they knew the group was wrong.
There were many such studies done by Solomon Asch. He expanded this. His results showed that if the person had 1 perceived partner in their belief, they were more willing to stand up for what they believed in. If you took away the partner, they were very less likely to stand up. His studies also showed that if the group number decreased, people were more likely to stand up for what they believed in. It showed many people just go along with the crowd out of fear from social punishment. Its control.
What about if it is your boss or someone in power? Well then it is much much worse.
Then there is the classic Milgram study. In this study there was a boss, and a student and a staff. The staff were assigned to listen to the boss. The rule was, every time the student got an answer wrong the staff was to shock them when the boss told them. At first it was small voltage, but eventually it went all the way up to 450 volts. The person getting shocked was crying and pleading for help. The boss was demanding they did it. 65 percent of people still shocked all the way up to the maximum. Almost all people shocked for some time. Just because their boss told them to. Here is an excerpt from the study:
“Ordinary people, simply doing their jobs, and without any particular hostility on their part, can become agents in a terrible destructive process. Moreover, even when the destructive effects of their work become patently clear, and they are asked to carry out actions incompatible with fundamental standards of morality, relatively few people have the resources needed to resist authority”
People follow, especially when it’s an authority like all boss or doctor. In this case we now had had a “predator,” which was a lie. Now the problem gets worse, a lie to itself is hard enough to overturn in your own mind, but a group and a community lie that has become a truth to a community is almost impossible to change.
So now we have a 22 year old female that was sold for sex for drugs, was beaten, and was homeless for 6 years, used drugs, drank, and was never in therapy or got help. She is now a predator in all of the staff minds. None of which had taken the time to talk to her. Now I Start hearing other staff give her this label. Then they treat her like she is a predator. If we treat someone as if they are this victim of abuse, we are going to treat them a lot different than if we consider them a predator. This will also change their reaction.
If you come up to me crying and I think you are a predator I will blow you off, which then hurts you, and then you get sad. You are at this last hope hospital and you are getting blown off like you are a scumbag. You are ignored, so you get mad and blow up. Then staff says, “see, what a predator, I told you so.” Then the pain gets deeper and deeper and more painful.
We will like to think we are different and I try to be, but I’m not. I started to question myself, “is she manipulating me?”
We now have a group of people working not on getting to know the patient, but on finding predatory behaviors to get her thrown in jail.
That’s fine with everyone because they don’t have to get to know her. This is easy, we can have someone think for us, and now we have a label. This isn’t what is on the treatment plan. These are hush hush almost like game plans behind closed doors. This Happens all the time, secret ideas on how to manipulate things by people in power.
No One Stops to think, where was this thought generated?, does anyone disagree? No one asks. Everyone stays silent. One interaction of her not listening when they told her to move, that’s it.
I’m thinking as I see this unfolding what the hell is this. Who gets to decide who is sick? I’m talking to this patient and I am seeing something different. They tell me that is because I am easy to manipulate, and I am too soft. How can you be to “easy” on someone? who’s been through all this is what I’m thinking. Shouldn’t we stabilize her and get to know her before we start telling her what to do with her life and how she needs to fix it.
In my confusion and frustration I went to see a 75 year old retired psychiatrist who was a bit different in that he never got changed by the system, instead, he saw the truth and was not afraid to speak it. I went to him often to learn things. He was and is the guru of psychiatry and psychology in my mind. He told me about the sociologist named Talcott parson who wrote in 1951 about the” sick role. “He said to me, “who gets to decide who is sick and who is not” what credentials do they have and who appoints them this authority?
I said “that’s what I’m talking about,” I just can’t say it as smart and eloquent as him. He told me about this writing of the “sick role.”
Then he told me about this story of a patient who was in court for commitment, she did not say a word the whole proceedings. The lawyer and judge decided she was mentally ill and had her committed. He asked them “why did you decide this patient was mentally ill.”
They said “the burden of proof is on the patient, they need to prove they are not sick.”
To me that is completely backwards, so we can just decide someone is sick by our standards, and because they went to school they have this power.
In this case we now have a known “predator” on our unit with other severely ill patients. As they spend more time together, there are arguments between the patients and conflicts. This is normal of any group of people that are together in a closed space for any amount of time. There was multiple fights and almost brawls in this time.
We had another patient at this time, I’ll call her “Maddie.” She felt that this patient, “Reagan,” was getting to much attention and running the unit. She knew that “Reagan” would go back to jail if she kept having problems. So she antagonized her and picked on her. Maddie is not a bad person, just very ill and in need of a lot of time and attention. We were not able to provide, especially with Reagan there.
There was a night it got real bad. On this night, Maddie gave Reagan the finger, screamed at her, and yelled at her. As Reagan came out of the dayroom this night, Maddie went after her calling her a whore and a slut and telling her she needs to go back to jail. Maddie was calling her racial names, and Reagan was not innocent, telling Maddie to go kill herself. Through this all, Reagan fought off all of this antagonizing all night.
For anyone it is hard to keep control when someone is digging at your most insecure points. However, for a patient that has the background of Reagan, it is even harder. She started going after Maddie, then she retreated, which was hard for her as she was a fighter.
I went back and talked to her and said “what are you doing, do you want to go to jail,” and after about 5 minutes of intense talk she said she was calm. Then I made a gigantic mistake, and it was my ego. I wanted to show that I had calmed this patient down, almost to show off in a way, I know this is why, because if I was alone without the audience of the whole hospital I would have kept her away. Instead, I brought Reagan out to show off how calm I had made her.
What resulted was complete chaos. A fight and all out brawl. We had security guards, all hospital staff, everyone was holding these patients down. Security held Reagan down, and Maddie called her racial slurs and gave her the finger, saying, “you’re going back to jail ni&&*r.” I went to have Maddie move to another room and she attacked me, and the other staff. This was not the first time Maddie had done this. Maddie in total had sent 6 staff to the hospital and had destroyed property multiple times. She had assaulted other peers also. Maddie was very ill, not a bad kid, I’ll write about her another day. It is horrific and terrible.
I could have done better on this night. It was the first time I had been assaulted in many years. It was not a pleasant night. As we made a report of this incident we were aware that Reagan was considered a predator and Maddie was considered a victim. I stated that I made the mistake of coming out of the room after the original situation had calmed down. That Maddie was the antagonizer and we know Reagan is looked at as the predator, but that is not the case. We stated it loudly and boldly and made sure there was not a question.
I came in the next evening and the supervisor and nurse practitioner who ran the floor stated that we were putting a patient back in their own section of the hospital on a 5:1 ratio. Now a 1:1 is ordered if a patient is considered dangerous. That means they have a staff all to themselves, all day to watch them. 2:1 is in the most extreme cases for the most dangerous. A 5:1 was the highest ratio this hospital had ever done, the overtime and programming that had to go into this was astronomical.
The patient they put back there was Reagan. The one who had not once attacked staff, or peers,. She was loud, and she swore a lot, and she told people they were full of shit when she thought so. But since she is labeled as a predator, the whole team sent her back there. To do this they have to get approval from the top of the hospital. What they did, these 2 people running the unit, was call the heads of the hospital and tell them that we had a dangerous predator in the hospital who was destroying everyone and everything.
This was true, but not of the patients, it was true of them. They were the predators.
They had Reagan placed on this 5:1 secluded area of the hospital. It was their perception based on nothing. It was based on the thought that we first had with Reagan, that she as a predator. She was loud and disrespectful. She would come up to the desk and say “get up mother fuckers, fuck you,” laugh and dance loud. Maddie was the one who had injured multiple staff and peers. She was going to be free on the unit. This was on a Thursday. Now Reagan was back all to herself with 5 staff and everyone was frightened to go back there. Because, you know, she’s a predator. But they had 5 of them. When someone is back there they have to be met by a nurse every shift and a doctor every day, and then the staff at all times are there watching them. The weekend following this decision, Maddie assaulted 7 staff, sent 5 to the hospital. Reagan sat back in her own section of the hospital for swearing and being loud. Staff had to watch, couldn’t leave that section if they were assigned. There was a brawl in which one patient who was on a 1:1 was left alone and he cornered a staff, he assaulted her and took her badge, and escaped. All as 5 staff and Reagan Are locked in their private unit.
This is what happens when we allow thoughts to spread and to follow based on nothing. Still they wouldn’t let up. They kept her back there, now it was an ego battle and they had to prove they were right.
So as Reagan is back there, I watch as in a 8 or 10 hour shift with someone, you start to talk, the staff started talking to Reagan, and they had to. She started opening up. I heard staff start to laugh with her, and she started to open up about her life to them. She would cry and let her guard down. I saw staff start to tell her about their own personal struggles and their history of psych which administration says is a no no. But it happened all the time, people were building relationships. I heard staff go back there and cry with her, talk to her, share with her, she started to shine bright and she was happy. She had a whole group of people that because they were forced, got to know her. Then the team of leaders was frustrated. They wanted these staff to be reporting incidents of predatory behavior. They kept hounding staff to write them so they could get her out of there. Staff would not do it. None of them. They said no, she is not, not using the words but by writing the truth and their own thoughts about Reagan. This continued and I was thinking about how amazing it was.
I would go back there and we talked. I made sure a book called “Pieces of cake,” was donated to her. It was one of the first books that changed my life. I got some daily readings donated to the unit. We would read them and talk about what they meant.
Reagan was now out of isolation. Now she was not some angel, she was not innocent. She had serious trauma and issues to resolve. One day, she had cheeked all her meds and was going to take them. She would not hand them over unless I came and talked to her.
This is how all of this “predator” talk affected me, I said “no, I’m not playing these games, then next time it will happen again and it will be worse.” This had affected me the opposite, I had started to believe that I was too soft, I was ruining things. I was the problem by being too empathetic.
Then a newer staff stood up and said “just go do it! So what, maybe she needs to talk to you, you always say that we need to do this and build relationships,” then another staff said the same thing to me.
I thought wow, I have become the one who looks down on the patient and the staff have completely turned around, there had been a cosmic shift. I’m becoming someone that’s not me. I want to survive and keep a job, and get good reviews, what happened, or wasn’t about helping anymore. This woke me up.
I went down there and we talked and it was a good talk I always told her to stop being this fake Reagan, to take her mask off. That was our line. One day she started yelling and cussing in the morning and everyone was getting ready to go, and I said, “Reagan, take your mask off when you talk to me.”
She stopped and said, “if I didn’t know what you meant I would kill you mother fucker.’ Then she laughed.
My point is you have to first open up and get to know the other person. We are so good at saying stuff like that, yelling people what to do, but if I had said that without knowing her I would have got punched. Then we would say, “see look at how she is.” People actually do this and say it is the patient’s behavior.
In response I would show the statistics of incidents and assaults. If it was the patient’s behavior, then all staff would have similar number of incidents and assaults and restraints when they work. However, we do not. We have some people that 25 percent of the time they work there is an incident. Some are at 0%. How is that possible if it’s the patient’s behavior? It is not the patients. The numbers back that up.
We had a staff named Darcy who was one that was hard on the patients and tough on them all the time, but loved them. She had come around with Reagan. They had some kind of connection. One night Reagan had ripped apart her room, destroying things, swearing, and out of control. The whole hospital was down on the unit and putting their gloves on to fight.
Darcy, who is a strong personality and loves the patient’s. She just has high expectations. She says to everyone as they are running down to tackle this “predator,” she says, “stop everyone!!!” As Reagan was throwing a fit, this predator and dangerous criminal, Darcy walked into her room against everyone’s directions. Everyone is afraid she will get killed. She opened her arms as to offer a hug, Reagan stops completely and hugs her and bawled and bawled and would not let go. It was like she had been needing and wanting that hug for 20 years.
Darcy said, “I Don’t care if anyone reports me for hugging her, and I get fired for this, it is worth it!” Everyone had their head down, and walked away. They both were crying.
Darcy, Reagan and I sat down there, talking, laughing working through what was bugging her. Teaching her ornery ways to find out what’s bugging her.
She then said to me “shit always happens when you are here.” I got mad, real mad, and left, and wouldn’t talk to her for a while. I was pissed partially because I care about these patients with all I got, and I had just gotten told that by the supervisors. What had happened is some of the other staff said that and again, a thought gets spread as truth. She was a truth teller though, so I know it was partially true. We had a group of patients that no one wanted to deal with. If I spent too much time with one, they would act up and I was basically reinforcing it. I didn’t know what to say to her I was so mad.
Finally I went down to her room before I left and she said “wtf man, what do you care what people think. “I finally didn’t have anything to say but the truth she said “take your mask off”
I said “ok, I’m hurt because I care about every one of you guys and what you said hurt my feelings because I try. “
She said “ok ok Mr. Sensitive.” Then she said “do you think it’s true?”
I said “no.”
She said “then who cares,” She said “I got you, that’s what you always say to us.”
I said” ok, you got me.”
I’ve never cried in front of a patient but my god was I close. I didn’t but I was close.
What we had here was what’s called a relationship. That is how change happens. We got to her because we broke the rules. We apologized to her when we were wrong. That’s what we are afraid of, we are the “providers,” they are the “patients”, we don’t say sorry, we are in charge and above them. Well, I don’t believe that. People heal through relationships, not from someone they don’t know forcing rules and medications on them.
But she said something else. She said, “Man you and Darcy, you guys are the most caring ones out of everyone. But man if you get mad you guys are cold ass mother fuckers.”
I said, “kind of like you huh?”
More proof that sometimes the greatest weapon we have in helping someone is our relationship. If we don’t have one, we are useless. Does this Reagan person sound like a predator to you? Remember this was generated from one 3 minute interaction the 2 people that generated this, never spent another minute with her.
However, the ego of the “predator makers,” seemed to backfire. Everyone got to know Reagan. Their ego was the death of them.
I sat and listened to her talk with staff one day, about 7 of them. All telling about the first time they met Reagan and they all did impressions of her. They were laughing and laughing and everyone had a relationship with her, a real relationship. At the end everyone could call her out, and she was ok with that because there was a relationship, not just a thought that she is evil and treating her that way.
When she was acting up we could be firm with her and it wouldn’t escalate. We could tell her what she can do, we talked about her case. She first had denied any substance abuse. Now she was open and honest about her whole life with everyone. All because people gave her the time of day to get to know her. The leaders said she will tell us.
I said “no, they learn what you want to hear, then they do it. If what you guys have been doing was working, how come the same people keep coming back and we have me mental health patients them ever? Because it’s working? “
I don’t work at this place anymore.
They made phone calls and had Reagan moved to Jail , they had pulled enough strings, and made enough chart notes. They felt they had finally proved their point, she was a predator. But the point they proved is that they were the sick ones. They couldn’t win vs the truth, so they did some things to get her moved.
As she left she said to Darcy, “Darcy, I never had a mom and dad before, but I feel like you and #/#^ are my parents and now I finally got parents and now I have to go.” She cried and cried and cried.
The next day there was a meeting, everyone showed up, and at the same time every single floor staff put their head down and would not look at the leaders. Not one word. It was a statement.
That was not it, a few weeks later the supervisor was removed. The other team members were removed or placed in other positions. Not all of them but a few.
So change can occur, but it takes strength, courage, and sometimes breaking the rules. Our “rules” for patient care were broken over and over in this case by staff. The result, a young lady who never felt safe, finally did. Someone who hid their true selves, finally started to take off a mask. Finally opened up about her past. Instead of being afraid of jail, she wanted to go, get her GED, go to art school and be a counselor someday. She was ready and willing to go.
I love that quote:
“If injustice become law, then resistance becomes duty.” We can’t keep doing what we’ve been doing, it’s not real treatment and it doesn’t work.
It also takes standing up for what you believe in. Change takes time, sometimes you take a step back then a step forward, 2 back, then 3 forward, There is no huge aha moment. However, there are moments that are crucial to the change, this was one of those moments. I think it was beautiful; however usually in any change process we have heartaches and losses. We just keep digging and giving love and standing up for those that cannot stand for themselves and we will see it. This is why we can’t give up.
It only takes one person. I know this because when I was committed as mentally ill in 1994 the staff had decided that I could not be handled by the staff, or the hospital. I guess kind of like Reagan.
One lady, her name was Mary, went into the staff meeting and fought for me and said to the room full of people planning my departure, to let me stay. She threatened to quit her job if they did not give me a last chance, and not go to the state institution. She said it would ruin my life and she believed in me. She was one, but she believed in me, she fought the whole staff, then, the silent objectors became less silent, and they went in to that meeting to figure out when I would be shipped out the state hospital. They came out of the meeting telling me I was staying.
One person standing up can change the world. If I went to the state hospital back then when they secluded and brutalized patients, I would be done because I would have fought and I would still be there or worse.
Her act of courage for me changed the whole world. Every interaction I have had that had helped anyone is possible because of her act of courage.
As for Regan I don’t know, we are not allowed to know or talk to patients after departure. This is so they can build relationships. I believe she is in prison, I have no idea.
I got a letter one day, in my mailbox. No name on it or anything. The letter said “Hi Mr. Sensitive, I want to be just like you some day. I am reading and learning and I am slowly learning how to “take my mask off.”
Some of the leaders of the team are still there doing this to more patients.
We got this girl who went through hell, begins opening up. Started slowly stopping her behaviors and trying to love more and trust.
We got the other ones, the leaders, labeling people without knowing them and telling other people to chart that so they can get rid of them so they are not exposed.
So I ask you,
Who is the real predator?
May you be somebody’s Mary.
This is an excerpt from an article I just read called “The Shamanic View of Mental Illness.”
Don’t always believe your thoughts.
In the shamanic view, mental illness signals “the birth of a healer,” explains Malidoma Patrice Somé. Thus, mental disorders are spiritual emergencies, spiritual crises, and need to be regarded as such to aid the healer in being born.
What those in the West view as mental illness, the Dagara people regard as “good news from the other world.” The person going through the crisis has been chosen as a medium for a message to the community that needs to be communicated from the spirit realm. “Mental disorder, behavioral disorder of all kinds, signal the fact that two obviously incompatible energies have merged into the same field,” says Dr. Somé